We've discontinued the use of this blog and are now relying more heavily on the church website.
We've discontinued the use of this blog and are now relying more heavily on the church website.
2/29/2012
The Right Way to Be Wrong...
Admit it... You're wrong sometimes. But there's a right way to go about being wrong...
Admit it.
Sometimes, you’re wrong. Maybe you make an honest mistake. Maybe your sin nature got the best of you. Whatever the case, from time to time, we all do or say things to other people that are wrong.
Maybe it’s a careless word to a coworker. Maybe it’s an argument, and you went too far with your words. Perhaps you said or did something that hurt another person. Perhaps, you FAILED to say or so something that was important to another person. Maybe your words or actions set a bad example for onlookers.
Whatever the circumstances, sometimes we all do things that hurt other people. When that happens, we know what we have to do. We have to make it right. We have to apologize. The trick is, apologizing means humbling ourselves and admitting our fault, and we humans don’t like doing that!
Maybe you’re good at admitting your fault. Maybe that’s not a struggle for you. But maybe, it IS a struggle. How do you know?
What do your apologies sound like? Have you ever said something like this:
“I’m sorry if I hurt you, but the way you were behaving, I hope you can understand my perspective.”
How about this one?
“I’m sorry I got impatient with you, but you weren’t listening!”
Have you ever used apologies like these? I have.
But, are these really apologies? Let’s take a look.
“I’m sorry if I hurt you...”
Sorry IF I hurt you? Not sorry for what you did–just sorry if what you did HURT someone? Is that really the root issue?
“But the way you were behaving...”
Whose fault is it that you hurt someone? Whose responsibility is it? Did someone else’s actions FORCE you to sin?
Apologies like these miss the point. These are about shifting blame, explaining away our sinful actions as the inevitable results of other people’s indiscretions. These are token apologies that fail to truly acknowledge our own sinfulness, and that shift our responsibilities to others.
Nobody likes to be wrong. Nobody likes other people to know that they are wrong. Nobody likes to go before their coworkers, their friends, their spouse or their children and say, “I was wrong. Please forgive me.”
But that’s exactly what we need to do.
You do not delight in sacrifice, or I would bring it; you do not take pleasure in burnt offerings. The sacrifices of God are a broken spirit; a broken and contrite heart, O God, you will not despise.
-Psalm 51:16-17
For whoever exalts himself will be humbled, and whoever humbles himself will be exalted.
-Matthew 23:12
The lesson? It is more important to be humble than to be right. It is more important to have a broken heart than to be on the winning side of a dispute.
In our ministries, as with all children, some are easy, and some are, well, a little more inclined toward trouble. Yet, I am not nearly as concerned for the kids who get in trouble frequently, but who cry when we correct them, than I am for those who show no remorse for their actions. It is the broken spirit I am encouraged by, because the broken spirit understands his fault. He understands his need to make things right. He wants to please those who are in authority.
Those kids who don’t seem to care when they are corrected? THOSE are the ones I’m concerned for. They are the ones who aren’t sorry, who don’t see the need to change, and who will, most likely, continue in their errors long after the broken-hearted kids have made the change.
How must God feel as our Father when we are not broken-hearted over our sin? How can we do better if we don’t first acknowledge our faults?
Admit it.
Sometimes, you’re wrong. Understanding this fact is a vital starting point to allowing God to work in your heart. And that means humbling ourselves, taking responsibility for our own actions, not blame-shifting, and not concerning ourselves with the fault of others or our relative righteousness compared to other people. God alone is our standard of righteousness, and next to Him, we all fall very, deeply, pathetically short.
Admit to your wife when you’ve wronged her. Admit to your husband when you’ve wronged him. Admit to your children that you made a mistake. Admit to your coworkers that you were wrong in sinning against them.
“I’m sorry. I was wrong. I’ll try to do better. Will you please forgive me?”
No self-justification. No blame-shifting. No excuses. Humble yourself, take responsibility for your own faults, and truly apologize. Then, make every effort to avoid repeating your mistake.
We’re all wrong from time to time. Failing to admit it doesn’t fool anybody–it only makes us look more foolish. Don’t play the Blame Game. You know where the blame truly lies.
Make the sacrifice God is seeking; a broken and contrite heart, and watch God lift the burden of trying to save face.
We’re all wrong sometimes. The trick is to be wrong in the right way.
©2012 Michael Martin
The bus will not be running tonight. Our dirver is sick and the weather is questionable at the close of Awana.
While VBS may still be 6 months away, the curriculum has just arrived and work has begun on another awesome Vacation Bible School.
This year Doc, our creation scientist, will teach our children to trust God's Word.
Each day of TrueRassic Park features Drama and Puppet skits, featuring Doc and Perry, his donosaur friend from the past. Each day includes age-targeted lessons from Preschool through 5th grade, and each in-depth lesson includes an effective object lesson to illustrate the point. Add to that a complete array of crafts, games, snacks, music, and fun, and we have all of the makings for a teriffic time!
We recognize in tackling this topic that it may challenge what your children are learning in school and what you as parents may believe yourselves. If you have any questions about how we are approaching this issue please do not hesitate to contact Joe Burgess at Calvary Crossroads Church.
In order to check your answers click on the Christmas Song Puzzle link in the left column. It will then take you to a page with a little tiny picture. Once there click on the tiny picture and it will become big and much, much easier to read.
Our last Awana for the year is quickly approaching along with a store night.
Crossroads is having one service on Christmas Sunday starting at 10:00 a.m. More details will follow on the program for the children on that day.
We are also having a Christmas Eve service on the 24th. It starts at 6:00 p.m. and ends at 7:00 p.m.
There is no Awana on December 20th and 27th. Awana will resume on January 3rd with "We're Back, Backwards Night."
Prior to Christmas, December 6th is "Wrap Your Leader Night" and December 13th is a Store Night.
"Christmas Wishes"
The annual Christmas parade is this Saturday, December 3rd, starting at 7:00 p.m. All kids going on the hay ride will need to arrive at the B of A parking lot at 6th/7th and 'L' by 6:40 p.m. Dress warmly and be prepared for the weather. The parade will head up 6th Street and end at 'F'. We will be handing out candy canes to the crowd.
Crossroads will also have its coffee, cocoa, and cookie trailer set up at the corner of 6th and J St. Contact Rene Ford if you wish to help.
Tuesday is our Hilarious Hair night at Awana. It is always a favorite as we anticipate just how creative clubbers and leaders can be with their hair. It is also a Store Night.
We are in the middle of Operation Christmas Child with the shoe boxes being due back by Tuesday, November 15th.
Crossroads Family Fesitval is happening again on October 31st. It will be from 6-8 p.m.